This is something I got off of a site I get emailed to me
about dealing with your love ones that have mental illness.
As I was reading it I was thinking about my husband,
my son, and the children I take care of and teach.
Life in general
If you only had today.....
You have choices to make.
You can be your best or your worst.
You can help others or ignore them.
You can be a victim or you can
choose to stand up to your loved one.
You can express your thoughts and
feelings or you can stuff them.
You can get stressed out or you can
stay as calm as you can possibly be.
You could let your loved one continue
to manipulate you, or you could set
limits on what you're going to take
and what you're not going to take.
You can keep getting called names,
getting blamed, getting criticized, and
getting humiliated, or you can tell your
loved one that these are unacceptable
behaviors and you will no longer tolerate
unacceptable behaviors.
On the other hand, you can also choose to
enjoy the beauty of the day.
If your loved one is not acting out, you can
be grateful for that.
If they are clingy, you can be understanding.
If they are angry, you can be tolerant.
If they are fearful, you can be compassionate.
If they are controlling, you can be patient.
If they are stressed or anxious, you can be
calm.
Whatever your loved one is, you can choose
to be the opposite.
This day is made up of your own choices.
Remember that it is your loved one who is
sick, not you.
You can be the opposite of whatever they are.
You can choose to exhibit the opposite
behavior that they do.
If they are sad, you can be an encourager,
If they are mean, you can be kind.
If they are isolating, you can be outgoing.
If they are too quiet, you might initiate
conversation, or you might choose to
respect their silence.
If they are in a bad mood, you can be in a
good mood.
If they are in a good mood, though, instead
of being the opposite, you might want to
join them (as it may not last)!
If they are negative, you be positive.
If they have a bad attitude, you have a
good one.
If they are defensive, you choose not to attack
them.
If they feel weak, you choose not to take
advantage of their vulnerability.
If they are afraid, you choose to be consoling.
If they feel hurt, you choose to be loving.
If they feel as if the world is against them,
you choose to be supportive.
If they feel like crying, you give them
your shoulder to do it on.
If they need a friend, you be that friend.
The point is, all the things you would want
them to be for you, you be for them.
Especially if today were all you had.
And if you wake up tomorrow...
You do it all over again.
And you do this...
One day at a time.
That's how you cope with living with
someone who has borderline personality
disorder.
Because trying to do it any other way is
just too difficult.
It is, isn't it?
There are too many emotions involved.
Too much hurt. Too much anger.
Too much fighting.
You might even think I'm crazy for
suggesting the things I suggested above.
But I believe it can be done.
Do you?
Or do you think I'm crazy?
Do you have the kind of relationship
with your loved one where these kinds
of things are possible, or do you have
the kind where you totally disagree
with me, and these things could NEVER
be possible?
This touched me today when I read it. The site that
deals with depression,bi-polar and anti social personality
disorders. You see I have a daughter that has all these
mental illness and we are having a rough time with her
these past 3-4 months,she has been off her meds for over
5 months and she has good days and not so good days,
more not so good these past couple months.She has really
learned some tough life lessons.Oh did I forget to tell you
she is in MO and I'm in TX,it makes it 100 times harder
to help. I have been on the phone this past week trying
to get her in-patient hospital help in MO. Guess what
I can't find it, the health care system stinks for adults
with mental illness and I don't know what else to do.
So when I seen an email from this site this morning I
opened it up,(most the time I store them in a folder
to read later).I opened it up and this is what I read.
It helped me feel a little better.
I hope all this is making sense,my brain is fried,
It's shut down from overload.
I need to post on all three blogs and play catch up.
My photo blog will have some new photo of my kids I
teach and ones of this special little baby girl Presley
that just turned 1. I babysit her and her brother and
sister. You need to check it out.
This post is really going to be random.......
My last post was about cleaning, well I did that and
got a lot done still have 3 more rooms and the garage
to do. But I took a break for a couple weeks. I got
done what I really needed done. Dee's dad and his wife
came for a visit and stayed for 2 1/2 days. It was nice,
we drove by and showed them where the show Dallas was
filmed at Southfork and where JFK got shot, was to cold
to get out,we'll get out the next time they come.
They left and then 3 hours later some of my girlfriends
from work came over, we ate and watched a chick flick
"The Women" it was good. After that we played
Rock band 2 for about 30 minutes. I laughed so hard.
We are going to do that again soon.
I played Rock band with the boys I watched and got
addicted to it. So we bought it for Valentines day.
I will post pictures on another post,they are good.
Zac, his girlfriend, Dee and I played one night for about
2 hrs. Then Dee and I played for 3 hours one night after
Zac left. This is unusual for me I hate to play video
games. It fumes me when Dee and Zac plays them all day,
I would refuse to play with them. It has been my stress
reliever this past week. We play it with the boys when
they got home from school. Zac even let Summer
play it, so she thinks. She has the guitar or drums
playing them,but they are not turned on.
Zac has a girlfriend YAHOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! not too sure
how serious,he won't talk to me about it. I'm just excited
he is paying attention to someone other than the X-box.
She is a really sweet girl. I like her. The 1st time we
met her was the night his grandpa came, poor girl.
Two House's teasing her, she took it well. She just laugh
a lot and fit right in. I hope it works I'm ready for Zac
to have a life and care for someone else than just himself.
He needs a life!!!!
Everyone you talk to has someone in their family that is
sick or just getting over being sick. The little ones I
babysit has had their share of sickness. The baby had
a respiratory infection about 3 weeks ago and her brother
had strep throat and then her brother and sister had ear
infections. Well this week the baby had pneumonia and brother
had ear infection on wed and went dr today and has mono.
I sure hope I don't get it, I can't afford to get sick.
Spring needs to get here soon. We haven't had a full class
at preschool since Thanksgiving break. Couple day in Dec we
had them all and I think we did for our Christmas party.
Since we came back from Christmas break we have had all
12 kids just one day. Ready for spring break to get hear
(2 weeks) and maybe everyone can get well.
Well I guess this is all I have to post for now.
I leave you one more thing. I got this email
from my preschool partner. She goes to bible study on
wed morning and this is what they studied the past week
and she wanted to share it with me. It was so good I want
to share it with you. Thank you Theresa, love you!
God knows exactly what we need!
Phil. 4:6-7 "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplicatioin with thanksgiving let you requests be made known to God. The peace God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Scripture Prayer...
Lord, I will not be anxious about _______, but I will place this cause before you, with thanksgiving. And I will receive your peace to guard my heart and my mind in Christ Jesus.
The speaker yesterday showed us something cool I thought, she said when your praying to God to take away your fears, to pray with your palms open and turned down, as this is letting them fall away, and when praying for God to bless you, to pray with your palms open and up so that you can openly receive the blessing from him. I loved that, thought it was very clever. If you need to talk or just need a hug, know I'm only a phone call away. Wishing you a wonderful weekend. I will pray this prayer for you also, just in case you can't right now. I love you.
Theresa
Blessing to everyone
Joella
Blessing to everyone
Joella
